‘My Son Has Autism and a Purposeful Life’

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Thanks to early intervention and one determined mom, this young boy with autism is now a 24-year-old who surfs, cooks, paints and works at a resort.
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It was the early 1990s, and architect-turned-flight attendant Rachel Fernandez was preparing to move to Switzerland with her husband, banker Keith Harrison, and their two children at the time, Alexander and Julyan. Before making the move, she decided to visit her parents in the Philippines. And it was here when Rachel came upon a piece in a popular daily about the 20 signs that a child is autistic. Rachel found herself ticking off 18 that applied to her second son, Julyan.

“Actually, all 20 applied to him,” Rachel says today on hindsight. “But I was in denial at that time.”

Several friends and relatives already observed that there was something peculiar about Julyan. At 2 years old, he would not speak nor socialize. “He knew about 10 words when he was 1,” Rachel recalls, “and he somehow lost them.” When she consulted doctors, “They assured me that his development was just delayed.”

At the time, there was very little information easily available about autism. So when Rachel saw a seminar on the topic sponsored by an Australian society in Manila, she quickly signed up to attend. It was here where her worst fears were confirmed, and she couldn’t stop crying. “I went home and it dawned on me that my child might be autistic. The symptoms were all there.”

After her family settled in Switzerland, Rachel read every book she could get her hands on to learn about her son’s condition. “I was frantic. I was going to do everything in my power, everything I could do [for Julyan].”

In her research, she discovered and got in touch with Dr. Svein Eikeseth, a Norwegian doctor at the University of California in Los Angeles (UCLA), who was using a form of therapy called applied behavior analysis (ABA).



Today, ABA is known as the longest-standing form of therapy for children with autism. The Atlantic describes the therapy this way: “Certified therapists deliver or oversee the regimen, organized around the child’s individual needs — developing social skills, for instance, and learning to write a name or use the bathroom. The approach breaks desirable behaviors down into steps and rewards the child for completing each step along the way.”

Despite the distance, Rachel somehow managed to convince Dr. Eikeseth and UCLA to help her set up an ABA home program for Julyan, who was 3 in 1995 when he started the therapy. When Keith’s job took the family to Singapore, a persistent Rachel tapped the psychology students from the National University of Singapore to help her with what she and Dr. Eikeseth started.

Julyan had three hours of therapy every day until he was 12 years old. But just a few weeks into the program, Rachel was already seeing progress. “He was able to say, ‘Mama,’ ‘Papa,’ ‘apple.’ It all depends on imitation, starting with actions then words. Napaiyak ako when I realized he could do those things.”



Today, Julyan is 24 years old, and he is working as the head housekeeper of a beach resort that sits on the ancestral land of Rachel’s family in Zambales. Called Zambawood, it is a haven for Rachel’s son who functions well in nature and craves for structure and schedule. At Zambawood and at the adjacent organic farm, Julyan’s Pine Beach Farm, Julyan thrived; in fact, he surfs and goes kayaking, paints, cooks, and has even built a bamboo bike!

Rachel is thankful every day that she had the opportunity to provide for her son’s special needs. But, at the same time, she stresses how early detection and intervention was vital in her experience especially since autism covers a wide range of social, communication, and behavioral disorders. “Autism is for life, but you can help lessen the behavioral problems. Your child can have a purposeful life,” Rachel says, adding, “A lot of experts have solutions. It’s up to the parents to decide which therapy is good for the child and spot the skills they can be good at.”

In the future, Rachel hopes to build a community in Zambawood for adults with autism, supported by experts who can help them become productive. Julyan, of course, is ever present in her mind. “One day, we will all be gone. Now, I know, he will not be a burden to his two brothers (Alexander and the youngest Jonathan). There are many opportunities for Julyan to work with the community in Zambales, to have his own life.”

To parents with children with special needs, Rachel recommends that they need to find a way to learn how to relax. “I used to cry in the car — at that time, di ako maka-relax. It’s easier for me to say it now,” Rachel smiles. “Take care of yourself. Take time to look after yourself. Go on a date with your husband, get a massage, take a trip. When you’re happy with yourself, when you have a clear mind, you can face your problems better. It’s not the end of the world. You can still live your life. Bigay ‘yan ng Diyos, [our children] are a blessing and a gift.

“Julian has taught me so many things in life. He has made me a better person. I have learned to love unconditionally. You develop so much patience; you expand your creativity — wala kang choice, eh! I pray for guidance, vision, and energy. You just go one step at a time.

 

Via : smartparenting

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